The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity [EPUB]
11 October 2017, 06:56
2017 | EPUB | ISBN: 9780062322586 | 1.93MB
Iconic couples’ therapist and bestselling author of Mating in Captivity Esther Perel returns with a provocative look at relationships through the lens of infidelity.
Affairs, she argues, have a lot to teach us about the human heart—what we expect, what we think we want, and what we feel entitled to. They offer a unique window into our personal and cultural attitudes about love, lust, and commitment. Through examining illicit love from multiple angles, Perel invites readers into an honest, enlightened, and entertaining exploration of modern marriage in its many variations.
An affair: it can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity. And yet, this extremely common human experience is so poorly understood. Adultery has existed since marriage was invented, and so too the prohibition against it—in fact, it has a tenacity that marriage can only envy. So what are we to make of this time-honored taboo—universally forbidden yet universally practiced? Why do people cheat—even those in happy marriages? Why does an affair hurt so much? When we say infidelity, what exactly do we mean? Do our romantic expectations of marriage set us up for betrayal? Is there such a thing as an affair-proof marriage? Is it possible to love more than one person at once? Can an affair ever help a marriage? Perel weaves real-life case stories with incisive psychological and cultural analysis in this fast-paced and compelling book.
For the past ten years, Perel has traveled the globe and worked with hundreds of couples who have grappled with infidelity. Betrayal hurts, she writes, but it can be healed. An affair can even be the doorway to a new marriage—with the same person. With the right approach, couples can grow and learn from these tumultuous experiences, together or apart.
Fiercely intelligent, The State of Affairs provides a daring framework for understanding the intricacies of love and desire. As Perel observes, “Love is messy; infidelity more so. But it is also a window, like no other, into the crevices of the human heart.”
Sacred Relationship: Heart Work for Couples--Daily Practices and Inspirations for a Deeper Connection [EPUB]
29 September 2017, 06:35
2017 | EPUB | ISBN: 9781623171209 | 17.28MB
Sacred Relationship is a practical and spiritual guide and journal for couples to rekindle the love spark that started their fires and to maintain a steady heat for years to come. Following the format of Anni Daulter’s popular Sacred Series books, it is beautifully designed and illustrated, with chapters focusing on thirty-two weeks—each with meditations and exercises on topics that couples are likely to encounter on their journey together. Husband-and-wife team Anni and Tim Daulter offer both useful tips and creative ideas for enriching life together, and the weekly encounters provide couples with helpful information and thoughtful prompts for journaling that invite both members of the couple to take an intentional look at the relationship and adopt a practice of personal reflection and soul nourishment.
As anyone in a long-term relationship knows, the intense high that accompanies the beginning of love can fade over time unless the relationship receives proper care and attention. Sacred Relationship shows how intentional love brings more happiness, deeper joy, and greater fulfillment than the initial love spell and can steer each member of the couple into more profound personal growth. The book serves as a toolkit with answers to a wide variety of relationship questions and as a handbook for crafting daily practices that will raise the vibration of the relationship. Parents will find solace in topics that shed light on maintaining loving relationships, sex, and passion once children join the family. Busy couples who want to discover more about themselves and each other, find soulful solutions to everyday issues, and nourish a healthy and happy relationship year after year will find an invaluable resource in this book.
The Nest Newlywed Handbook: An Owner's Manual for Modern Married Life [EPUB]
25 September 2017, 06:33
2013 | EPUB | ISBN: 9780307340221 | 8.68MB
If only the answer to every marital question were as easy as “I do!”
For many couples the challenges of planning their nuptials are a piece of (wedding) cake compared to what comes after: How do we merge our finances—or do we? Do we need to spend every free minute together? And how do we decide where to spend our first Thanksgiving?
Online wedding community TheKnot.com was fielding so many questions like these from their newly married members that they were inspired to create an entirely new site—TheNest.com—dedicated to the unique issues that face people in the first few years of marriage. A 24/7 virtual married-best-friend-who’s-been-there-before, the site and its thousands of just-married members dish out advice on everything from how to get your permanent roommate to pick up his or her dirty socks, to how to inspect a property when you’re buying your first home, to foolproof guidelines for entertaining the in-laws. Unlike single friends (who don’t have the experience to give tried and true advice) or Mom (who has lots of experience but tends to give too much advice), Nesties share their experiences with no strings attached—and free of the worries that come with real-world friendship.
Now the editors of The Nest have brought together the very best of this hard-won knowledge, plus their own astute insights into the early years of marriage, to create a unique resource for navigating the sometimes bumpy road of marriage. Touching on everything from money to sex and starting a family, they go where no etiquette book or self-help manual has gone before, providing real-life solutions for the myriad problems even the happiest couple can encounter when two become one.
The first in a series of books for any couple who wants every day of their new lives together to be as fulfilling and meaningful as the day they walked down the aisle, The Nest Newlywed Handbook goes beyond platitudes and pep talks to explore the many rich rewards of married life.
An offshoot of the hugely popular wedding website The Knot, The Nest started out as an online community of girls grappling with the emotional issues—and enormous to-do lists—that come with the first years of marriage. The Nest has grown into a weekly webzine, a print magazine, and now a book series—all 100% committed to the phrase “happily ever after.”
Secrets every couple needs to know, from the website that put marriage on the map
Whether you’re about to tie the knot or are already well into your first years together, you are sure to have realized that this is not your parents’ marriage. Oh, how the rules—and roles—have changed. Who does the housework now that everyone works? If you want to keep your money separate—does it mean you’re not committed? Is it OK to order takeout when the in-laws come for dinner? The Nest Newlywed Handbook is your road map to modern married life, guiding you through the ins and outs of tackling life as a twosome.
Get tips and tricks on:
- Merging your money (or not)
- Building the family fortune
- Loving your in-laws
- Buying your first home
- Decorating as a duo
- Divvying up the chores
- Keeping the flame alive
- Fighting nicely
- Talking about kids
- Maintaining your single friends
- Hosting during the holidays
- Figuring out the future
This book is filled with advice, detailed to-dos, checklists, quizzes, and worksheets that are sure to spark conversations, fix problems, and get your new life together on track and off to a good start.